Let’s face it—women’s sexual needs are complicated. It takes many women longer than most men to get aroused, and it can be much more difficult for them to reach orgasm. That’s a big part of why women are such big fans of foreplay. It helps them get out of their heads and into the mood. It can even help up the odds that women will have an orgasm.
That said, despite the stereotype that women are the only ones with anything to gain from foreplay, men can also benefit greatly from it. That’s not just because your lady friend will have a new appreciation for you, either. Foreplay can be truly enjoyable for all involved.
One of the biggest advantages of foreplay is that it stretches out the amount of time spent engaging in each individual sex session. This is great for women because they typically need more time than men do to get into the groove and reach climax. It’s also great for guys because it helps you learn to savor the experience and slow things down. When you stop trying to rush to the conclusion of sex and start focusing more energy on enjoying the journey, you’ll appreciate it on a whole other level. Plus, delayed gratification can be pretty darn gratifying.
The simple act of kissing can be an integral part of good foreplay.
Another great benefit of foreplay is that it helps your wife or girlfriend to get into the mood in a big, big way. If your lady is really feeling it, her enthusiasm is only going to improve the quality of the sex you’re having. Her body will be primed, her mind will be focused on the act at hand, and she’ll be so into it that you’ll end up being more into it yourself. Sex can be okay even if one of you isn’t totally feeling it at the moment. When you’re both really into it, however, sex has the potential to be intense and mind-blowing.
Ultimately, though, foreplay is fun! Somewhere along the way we all bought into the misconception that foreplay is a chore that men engage in to make sure their significant others keep having sex with them. This is a foolhardy mindset to have, though. If the foreplay you’re having is only about your girl, then you’re not doing it right. It should be reciprocal. If you get her warmed up via oral or manual stimulation, she should be returning the favor. Take turns and make it playful.
It should also be noted that foreplay isn’t just about rounding second and third base on your way to home. Foreplay can be as simple and mutually enjoyable as making out on your couch like a pair of eager teenagers. It can also be watching a sexy movie together or just getting undressed slowly and admiring each other in the buff. Dirty talk, sensual massage, going out dancing together—if it revs your engine, it counts as foreplay. That’s yet another great benefit of foreplay, in fact. It’s a great way to add variety and excitement to your sex life again. Now that’s something both the guys and the girls can appreciate.