Introducing your boyfriend to your parents can be a nightmare, especially if he is not the exact type of guy they want you to be with. There are a few shortcuts that you can use to help him create a good first impression. If their first meeting is planned carefully, they'll love him almost as much as you do.
"They'll love him almost as much as you do."
Get Over Customs
It is not unusual for parents to want their daughter to date a guy of their nationality or religion. But if you are an adult, there is no reason for you to be restricted to these guidelines. You parents might not like the idea of you being in a relationship with a guy that does not fit these standards, but they may get used to the idea once they see that you really love him.
Your guy might be willing to convert to your religion, but if he is not, you might have to consider the consequences when you introduce your boyfriend to your parents. You know your parents best, and whether or not they will be able to get over it. He should at least be respectful of their customs. Tell him beforehand if he must pray before dinner or adhere to any other traditions or practices in your family home.
Warn Him About Potential Problems
Maybe your mother throws a fit when guests forget to take off their shoes. Perhaps your dad makes dirty jokes at the dinner table. Whatever your parents' shortcomings, your boyfriend deserves to know about them. Give him advice on how to react and how to win them over.
The more information your boyfriend knows about your parents, the better prepared he will be. It might seem counter-productive to tell him what to do, rather than just let him be himself, but if the situation is delicate, all the preparations are necessary.
Make A Great First Impression
A baguette, a bottle of wine, or a cake from a decent bakery can make a good impression on your parents. The hostess gift does not have to be expensive, yet it shows courtesy. Help him select a gift that is appropriate and as classy as possible, yet not too expensive.
Some guys naturally know how to dress up, but it wouldn't hurt to ask him what he is wearing when he meets your parents. He should avoid wearing jeans, if possible. A clean sweater is warm and friendly, yet just slightly dressy. He does not have to rent a tux, but he should definitely try to go beyond casual.
The single most important thing your boyfriend can do to get on your parents' good side is to show how much he loves and respects you. He should be affectionate, but not overly touchy. He should shake your dad's hand and hug or kiss your mom. If he is the real deal, he will be able to present himself in a warm, respectable way.