There is no certain script or line that will work with every woman. But there are certain things a guy can say to bring a woman closer to him and let her know she is loved. Only say things that you really, really mean, and do not feel as though you have to replicate the actions of the guys in the movies or relationships around you. Your relationship should be a partnership with a relaxed balance of give and take.
There are 7 things your girlfriend wants to hear to bring your relationship to the next level. Try saying them when you are ready, relaxed, and sure that you mean them. They are up to your own interpretation; talk to her like you would anyone else, but don't forget to make her feel special.
- "What are you up to?" Asking her how she is doing is nice, but it's too predictable and boring. If you are actually interesting in what she is doing, she will know that you want to get to know her more and more each day.
- "I missed you." She wants to know that you really do notice when she's gone. If you want her to realize that you belong together and that you want to be there for her, you need to let her know that you really do think about being with her.
- "Remember that time…" Bringing up something you have done in the past will remind her of the good times you have had with her. But be careful – a relationship cannot rely on the past. Making new memories will build the relationship.
- "You were the prettiest girl in the room." Talk about that moment when you first met, and what was going through your head. In return, she might tell you just what first attracted her to you.
- "You're my best friend." Being in a relationship with your best friend is the best way to go. You should be able to talk to her about anything as time goes on. There is a certain intimacy about having a best friend, and if you choose her over any of your buddies, she'll be all yours.
- "You can depend on me." Making promises and fulfilling them will give her a sense of security. Never make promises you can't keep, and let her know as soon as possible if you have to break your date.
- "I love you." But you should be able to say it because you want to, not because you think it will improve your relationship. Say it too soon, and it could end the relationship.
The most important thing to understand is that words will not make any relationship work. The time you spend with her will help you decide how serious you want to take your relationship. Each partner needs to be on the same page and want the same thing out of the relationship. A positive attitude and an honest passion will keep her confident and content in your arms.
Guys love it when you cook dinner for them. It means they don't have to worry about making reservations or impressing you with an expensive restaurant. All they have to do is relax and feel the love. In the meantime, you can get a chance to pamper him in the comfort of your own home.
Prepare by setting the table. A single rose in a clear glass makes an understated centerpiece. Take pride in the aesthetics of the dinner by using your best dishes, and place a sprig of parsley at the side of the dish as a garnish. If it's warm out, set up on the patio and enjoy the cool air of the night. It will feel as though you are out on a date, without leaving the property.
"Take pride in the aesthetics of your dinner."
Steak w/ Baked Potatoes
Naturally, a thick steak and a buttery baked potato is a comfort meal. But this is a very heavy combination that can cause sleepiness. If you want your guy to be wide awake and ready for action after dinner, this is not the best choice. But if it's that time of the month and you just want to snuggle, this is perfect for your romantic menu.
Hints:
- Be sure to leave just a little pink in the steak. Food poisoning is not sexy!
- Marinate the meat overnight in the fridge before cooking. It will come out so juicy!
- Rub the clean potato skins with butter and salt. Stab the skin with a fork a few times, then pop them into a muffin tin and set the oven at 400 F for an hour. The result? The crispiest, most delicious baked potatoes you could ever imagine.
Shrimp w/ Rice
Shrimp is an aphrodisiac because it contains zinc. Zinc can make his orgasm stronger. This light meal is perfect because it does not sit heavy in the stomach. It is perfect if you are planning a wild romp afterwards.
Hints:
- Leave the tails on so the shrimp will have to be eaten with the hands. There is something sexual about eating without utensils.
- Take care not to overcook shrimp, as it will get chewy. When grilling, start with raw shrimp.
- Also try linguini in place of rice.
- For some extra fun, buy some chopsticks. Whoever can work them better gets one free sexual favor!
Dessert
A light, airy dessert will wrap up the meal and make an elegant finishing touch. Something with a tangy punch, such as key lime pie, will cleanse the palate and make the breath kissably fresh. Fruit after dinner aids in digestion, and makes a simple statement. Try dipping strawberries in chocolate, or soaking them in wine overnight.
Serve dessert on one plate, with two spoons or forks. Drizzle chocolate sauce in a zigzag over the whole plate. The whole dinner date will be fun from start to finish. When you cook dinner for your boyfriend, he will feel absolutely spoiled and loved.
As well-trained, adorable, and sweet your guy is, there is no doubt that there's a carnal, beast of a man inside him somewhere. Even those dorky, skinny guys who become graphic designers and work at Starbucks have a man in there, somewhere. Ditch the fluffy pet names for the night to help him feel like a man and get in touch with his masculine side.
- Cook for him. Don't hold back on the steak and loaded bacon-and-cheese mashed potatoes. Foods that don't require utensils are a bonus. When you nurture him with your cooking, he will feel cared for and loved.
- Kiss him deeply. Even the goodbye kiss can be more powerful. Exchange a peck for a full sensory experience. Wrap your arms around his shoulders, and if he's the one, let him hold you and kick back your leg.
"If he's the one, let him hold you and kick back your leg."
3. Wear his old tee-shirts to bed and around the house. There's something a guy loves about seeing his girl wearing his clothes. It shows that you're really thinking about him and that he is a part of your everyday life.
4. Ask him for help. Having him change the oil in your car or open a jar of pickles is a surefire way to make him feel like a man who is needed. But he'll feel like even more of a hero when you open up to him after a bad day. Even if he can't give great advice, he will gladly be your shoulder to cry on.
5. Dress up. The more you act like a woman, the more you will make him feel like a man. Lace, pearls, and a flowery fragrance will remind him of just how perfectly feminine you are, and how his masculinity complements your delicate features.
6. Give him a pair of your unmentionables. If you live separately, this is a must. Spritz them with your favorite perfume, and every time he sees them, he'll fantasize.
7. Experience oral pleasure. It's clear that men love being on the receiving end of oral sex, and it is great to oblige. But when a guy gets up close and personal with your taste and smell, fireworks go off. It really is better to receive than to give after all!
8. Give him freedom. Sometimes, a night of drinking, football, and horseplay with his buds is the best way for him to get his testosterone fix.
9. Change positions. It doesn't have to be the Wheelbarrow, the Pinwheel, or the Double Jointed Flamingo. Missionary and doggy-style are the two classic positions that will make him feel like a ruthless animal in a very sexy way.
10. Let him make decisions. Ask him where he wants to go for dinner. Even if you don't agree with all of his opinions and personal tastes, negotiation is key.
11. Ask him to teach you. He'll love to show you how to play a few notes on his guitar or change the wiper fluid. It shows you have an interest in the things he enjoys.
12. Expect more from him. There is no reason to settle for a guy who does not welcome the responsibilities of being a man, especially the main one: to take care of you. If you feel as though you're being taken advantage of, or neglected, do something about it.
Allowing him to feel like a man at times will boost his confidence. You don't have to be submissive to bring out the man in him. Strengthen him and build him up so he can be the best man in your life.
