Short answer: no, but you need a job to keep a girlfriend.
That’s not exactly true, of course. Money is not everything and should definitely not be a factor in choosing a mate. Many women do not care about a man’s salary or what possible gifts he can give to her. That is a great quality to look for in a woman—and a potential girlfriend: the lack of superficial values. However, there are lots of reasons why you do need a job to keep a girlfriend.
Quite simply, a job shows that you work for your money. You are not a spoiled brat living off a trust fund. You are not mooching off of your parents. You pay for your own living expenses, handle your debts, and hopefully, even save for a rainy day. This shows you possess the basest form of adult responsibility to a woman.
A job shows a woman that you have ambitions or career goals. Maybe your current job as a grocery store cashier isn’t your life’s dream…but it could be that you are gaining experience to become a storeowner yourself someday. Dreams very rarely come true without a little work on your part. A woman with goals of her own will likely be put off by a man who appears to drift through life aimlessly.
Maybe you’ve been working at your current job for five months—or maybe five years. Either way, this is a way for a woman to gauge your stability (and to even use it as a relationship gauge). What is your work history like? Do you have a history of one-month-long assignments before you were fired? Did you quit as soon as the job lost its appeal or got too hard? If so, that may send up a red flag to a woman who is looking for commitment. How will she know you will stick out a relationship if you can’t even stick out a job?
Finally, a job shows that you’re capable. You’re capable of taking care of yourself, of keeping a job, of carrying yourself as a mature adult. This is especially important if you hope to one day get married, have a family with this woman, to buy a house. If you don’t even work, how will you achieve these milestones? Moreover, a job displays your skill set, what you’re good at. Productive skills are hard to find in the guy who lays around his parents’ basement all day.
More concretely (and with the near future in mind), without a job you will likely be short of cash at any given time. What will you do on dates? What if your new girlfriend wants to go bowling, but you’re broke? How will you celebrate her birthday? While money is certainly not essential to finding love, a boyfriend who either forces you to pay for him or holds you back from participating in fun activities is bound to become a burden very quickly.
Are you travelling the web looking for a new relationship, romance or your perfect match? You are not alone, and your soon-to-be partner is out there right now, looking for you. Successful online dating is about putting your best self forward as well as knowing how to navigate the online dating circuit. If you want to be successful in the romantic area of the World Wide Web, I have a few tips to guide you on the path.
1. Members Only: Too many people hesitate about joining an online dating website for fear of exposing their profile to co-workers, employers or others they would prefer not have involved in their love life. Many online sites have public profiles, which indeed exposes your privacy. However, you can protect your privacy by becoming a member, and setting your privacy ratings as "members only". This means the only people viewing your profile are other singles, just like you.
2. Build an Honest Profile: If you are a self-employed mechanic, promoting yourself as Director and CEO of the company, while technically true, is still misleading. You want to attract a person who will appreciate and respect who you are as an individual. No relationship is ever successful if it starts with a lie. Be honest about your age, social habits and preferences.
3. Smile for the Camera: A picture is a great complement to your profile, and studies show that a picture will attract more attention. However, put a little thought into it. Posting a current photo of what you look like now is important (see number two). It's equally important that your picture include a little personality. Staring into the camera like a death row inmate won't be the most persuasive message you could send, but neither is a boudoir photo. Instead, try phoning a friend who always makes you laugh before you click the shutter. Putting yourself in a good mood for your profile picture will make your personality shine. Practice using the timer on your camera and snap away until the true you comes through.
4. What Makes You Laugh? I've never met anybody who does not have a sense of humour. However, different things are amusing to different people. When building your profile be as specific as possible, and try to add a little flair. "I love old movies." Does that mean silent film festivals, Judy Garland musicals or Lethal Weapon? "John Wayne is my hero," says it better. Your profile is your introduction to others; make sure it is you being introduced.
5. Respond! Respond! Respond! Romance is out there waiting for you. You're perfect match might not be a complete surprise to you. Don't snub other members who want to chat with you because you think their profile doesn't suit your needs. Respond to everyone who shows an interest. Remember, you are reading this guide to help you with online dating success. Just because you mastered the art of an online profile, doesn't mean everyone has. Besides, people who show an interest in you are attracted for a reason. You owe it to yourself to find out what that reason is.
Finding your soul mate through online dating is easier than you think. Building an engaging profile is the secret to success for relationships, romance and your perfect match.
