Have you ever wondered how the vagina lubricates itself? Is it normal to have a ridged area just inside? What is a cervix, anyway? You have learned the basics growing up, but there are many things you don't know that are interesting and can help you find out what is normal when it comes to vaginal health.
- What is a cervix, and what does it look like? The cervix is the barrier between the uterus and the vagina. It is sort of like a tube with a small opening at the end. Menstrual blood comes from this opening. A very interesting fact that few people realize is that the cervix actually looks like a penis in photographs!
- Is it normal to feel ridges just inside the vaginal opening? The first time you put your finger inside you or your partner, you may have noticed a hard spot with ridges just inside. Many young women wonder if this is normal, and in fact, it is. These are called vaginal rugae. These ridges are most prominent after puberty, and allow the birth canal to expand during childbirth without tearing. These ridges will become less prominent after menopause as estrogen levels drop.
- Can anything be done to tighten it? Yes! Exercise will maximize pleasure and tightness. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles regularly to promote bladder health, tighten the vaginal walls, and experience more pleasure during sex. This exercise is known as Kegels, and it is done by contracting the same muscles you would use to stop your urine flow – but don't do it while you are peeing.
- How can I create more moisture? If you feel that you are not "wet" enough during sex to stay comfortable, it could be because of oral contraceptives or hormone fluctuations throughout the month. Regular stimulation can help you stay moist and get wet easily. Also try water-based lubricants. You create the most lubrication after an orgasm, so try to have one before penetration.
- What color is normal for discharge? White, off-white, light yellow, and clear are all colors that mean healthy discharge. It is also normal for discharge to be brown just after a period, when old blood is being cleared out from the uterus.
- What if I'm on the Pill and I throw up? If you have nausea or diarrhea and you are taking oral contraceptives, keep in mind that if you are sick within 4 hours of your dosage, your may not have absorbed the pill. Insert the pill vaginally and allow it to dissolve instead. Only do this when completely necessary, as it has not been proven to be as effective for the long term.
Remember, nothing beats the advice of a skilled OBGYN when it comes to questions and concerns. Be aware of your body so that you will know if something is out of whack.
A bad breakup can mean months of going to bed early after watching a movie alone with a now-empty pint of ice cream. But it shouldn't be that way. Rebounding after being dumped or having to end a relationship is a great opportunity to grow as a person and make new connections with your newfound freedom. Learn about dating after a breakup to make sure you will get the most out of your bad experience.
- Date someone new. Really new. Take a chance with someone that you never thought you would have dated before. Someone who is the polar opposite of your previous partner. Did your old boyfriend have a bad case of road rage and a talent for scarfing down chili dogs? Take up a new poetry class to find someone with a sweet personality.
- Don't take dating too seriously. But don't hurt anyone, either. Casual dating is great and should not lead to much commitment. But if you feel tempted to take out your hurt feelings on someone else, and treat them badly in a new relationship – don't.
- Talk to friends. Not only will your friends lift your spirits, they might be able to introduce you to someone new. If your friends aren't that helpful, talk to cousins or anyone who is close to you who might also have connections.
- Surround yourself with joy. Avoid trying to date someone who is recovering from a breakup too. You might bond out of misery and neediness, but you will be so much happier dating someone who is lighthearted and fun.
- Don't date. Fling. Go out with multiple people without starting a relationship. Starting a new commitment is the worst thing you can do at this point. Keeping a casual attitude will help distract you and keep you from the lonely depression of staying at home.
- Look good. When you're single, you can be messy, wear sweatpants all the time, stop shaving, and gain 20 pounds. Avoid the temptation, though. Get a makeover and keep yourself groomed. You will have a blast of self esteem each time you look in the mirror, and you'll realize just how great you are – too great to care about your breakup.
- Learn from your mistakes. Were you too clingy? Were you trying to change someone who just wasn't right for you? Don't bring yourself down, but don't ignore opportunities for self-improvement, either.
- Stay away from your ex. Texting your ex or trying to be friends with them is a bad idea. There will be too much emotion to handle. If you start a new relationship, it will not be fair to your new boyfriend or girlfriend.
You might still be upset about your breakup, but learning more about dating other people will help you get through it. Do not allow yourself to soak in misery at home – put yourself out there, and realize that you will be feeling a lot better really soon.
We have all tried to follow those sex articles that describe elaborate positions without the use of detailed pictures or photographs. It is simply impossible. There is no easy way to picture "Mount your man at a 34 degree angle, with your shins perpendicular to his body. Place on hand on your hip, and one hand on his knee for support." Instructional sex videos are helpful in making these complicated positions clear. Following their examples will still only bring some degree of extra pleasure.
But what these instructional sex videos don't tell you is that you have to transition from each position smoothly. Going from the Crippled Spider to the Inverted Pretzel is no easy task. Being unpredictable with new and exciting sex positions is fun, but it takes the natural essence out of the act. For the most passion, you need to keep some regular positions in your routine.
How To Transition To The Next Position
You need to move on to the next position as quickly and smoothly as possible. It should be done in a few swift movements. Do not plan out your actions, just improvise with whatever you have in the room. If you must made some plans, make them seem spontaneous. Take a chair to give your partner some support in a different way.
Sometimes, new sex positions are discovered while changing to new ones. Try to move to a different part of the room without letting go of your partner, while still in penetration. Take it to the dresser, to the floor, to the closet, in front of the mirror – stay creative.
Add Your Own Passion
If you're in love with your sex partner, anything goes. You can express yourself in what you do before, during, and after sex. The way you act in bed with a person is a reflection of your relationship. Make it really count by setting the atmosphere and making the most of your time alone.
The Other Kinds Of Sex
Sex videos will rarely tell you how to have make-up sex. They will not tell you about angry sex. While you should resolve your problems and avoid going to bed angry, some problems are best solved with a good hot love sesh. Disagreements over money and the kids need to be compromised. But little issues over jealousy call for some time in bed.
Make your own sex videos by setting up a video camera in your bedroom. You can learn a lot by watching how you perform. Many couples enjoy the eroticism of being watched by the camera. Naturally, it is important to trust that the video will not be released into the wrong hands.
Personal expression is essential in any sexual relationship. Use creativity to make even missionary position a rich sensual experience. You can learn the right moves, but when you make sex personal, you and your partner will enjoy it so much more.
