How to Find a Girlfriend in a New City

You find yourself in a new city, whether it was for work, for school, or just for the heck of it. And while living in a new place has its perks (the ability to “start over” and to learn new things), it can also bring you loneliness. Here are some tips for finding a girlfriend in a new city.

The first thing you will need to know is that one rarely meets his or her mate without ever leaving home. You will have to socialize and put yourself out there. If you’re shy, this may be challenging at first. However, the more you get used to it, the easier it will become. Remember that no one knows you are shy until you act shy, so just pretend you are extroverted. With time, it will come more naturally.

How do you meet a mate when you barely know the area? Think about the places that are common to anywhere you go: libraries, museums, performance art facilities, etc. Figure out the name of these places (or just Google your city name and “library”), then sign up on their mailing list. Right away, you will be informed of upcoming events, from which you can decide what appeals to you. Remember, you can’t meet that special someone unless you try.

Another mailing list to join could be a charity organization. Are there any causes about which you feel strongly? Do you want to help in the fight against cancer? A simple Internet search will help you find charities in your city. While these get-togethers are for a greater cause, they are also a good place to meet others with interests like your own.

Hobbies are generally seen as the best way to meet your mate. They are, by nature, social gatherings in which you can get to know others with your same interests. Do you like working out, cooking, or dancing? Check your local recreation center for their offered courses in physical fitness, haute cuisine, or ballroom dancing. Rec centers are common in nearly every city, generally have low course costs, and bring together a variety of people.

A recent trend which has made dating in a new city easier is the creation of singles-directed websites. Nearly every large or metropolitan city has an associated singles website, such as SingleInDenver.com or GetWichitaSingles.com (or even your local Craigslist personals section). The Internet has certainly made dating more convenient. However, while you may be lulled into the comfortable anonymity of the Internet, don’t substitute it for a genuine social life.

Finally, think about places you visit anyways, then look at how you can get more involved. Do you go to church every week? Ask around to see if they have events for single members. How about through your work or school? Does anyone participate in happy hours or other social gatherings? Make yourself open and willing for love, and it will find you.